Think of a recent situation in which you found listening difficult. Which one (or more) of the four phases presented the most difficulty for you? Why? How could this have been overcome? I found it very difficult to listen to one of my former employers about a week ago regarding the reason I was going to be potentially fired. I could not interpret the message that she was trying convey. Basically she told me that some people thought I was intimidating and my tone was to strong or affirmative and I made them feel nervous or something of that nature. However, she could not tell me who specifically told her that about me. Therefore, she tried to generalize the problem so that there would not be any confrontation. When in all actuality if I had made someone feel bad or nervous I would had wanted to apologies to them but I wasn't given the opportunity to do so. This could have been over came if the employer wasn't so vague about the actual problem I'm sure that I didn't do anything to offend anyone because I hardly talk to the other employees. It was obvious that who ever informed her about me was someone who worked there for a long period of time and didn't like me because I was new and probably didn't act or speak the way they want me too.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Saturday, March 12, 2011
chapter 6 question 3
One concept from the reading that I found interesting was facial expression people usually act of of people's facial expression. A person is more willing to approach a person that is smiling and looks nice. However I disagree with the book when it says that smiling means that a person is honest and intelligent because in some culture smiling means that a person is vain. An some people can be dumb but look good so they just smile all the time. My self personally I don't smile unless something is funny. I' m not the type of person to smile and be up beat all the time for no reason its just not my Character.
Friday, March 11, 2011
Explain proxemics and chronemics. Are there universal rules for all cultures regarding these concepts? Give personal examples if possible. Give examples of personal experience in other cultures regarding these two concepts.
Proxemics is the study of space we use to communicate and Chronemics is the study of the use of time. For example the proxemics of people in America when talking to one another is at least three space away from each other while in some other cultures people might speak very loudly and stand close to one another. I know that I personally dont like it when people get really close to me when they are speaking to me it makes me feel vey uncomfortable.Chronemics relates to how much time it takes some one to complete a task. I often think that if I am taking longer then other people in my class to take a test that I am doing a bad job. I feel as if I should do everything at the same speed as everyone else. I also feel the same way when I am at work I dont want to take to long to do something but I dont want to complete a task to fast because then I will make less money.
Proxemics is the study of space we use to communicate and Chronemics is the study of the use of time. For example the proxemics of people in America when talking to one another is at least three space away from each other while in some other cultures people might speak very loudly and stand close to one another. I know that I personally dont like it when people get really close to me when they are speaking to me it makes me feel vey uncomfortable.Chronemics relates to how much time it takes some one to complete a task. I often think that if I am taking longer then other people in my class to take a test that I am doing a bad job. I feel as if I should do everything at the same speed as everyone else. I also feel the same way when I am at work I dont want to take to long to do something but I dont want to complete a task to fast because then I will make less money.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Chapter 6 question 1
"Our nonverbal communication is likely to be believed more than our verbal communication. Basically this means that it not what you say its what you do. For example in a group setting if everyone is suppose to meet for a presentation at a certain time and one group member is always late for group meetings or flaking on group meetings everyone in the group would most likely assume that the group member will be late to the presentation or maybe not even come.
" Researchers suggest that women and men differently decode nonverbal cues" I think that women might interpret nonverbal communication differently from men sometimes. Like when a girl is placed in a group that are mostly men and when she makes comments and no on responds. She might think that everyone else in the group is being disrespectful when really they might not have heard what she said. This might lead to her not expressing her opinions anymore. If this would have happen to a man he might just speak louder so that everyone can hear what he was saying.
" Researchers suggest that women and men differently decode nonverbal cues" I think that women might interpret nonverbal communication differently from men sometimes. Like when a girl is placed in a group that are mostly men and when she makes comments and no on responds. She might think that everyone else in the group is being disrespectful when really they might not have heard what she said. This might lead to her not expressing her opinions anymore. If this would have happen to a man he might just speak louder so that everyone can hear what he was saying.
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Chapter14 question 3
Success and failure is one concept that I found useful when it comes to being in a small group. It is very important for group members to communicate with each other and give useful feed back. Its also not a bad thing if a group doesn't do everything perfectly. I think its more about how hard each person tired and weather or not each person actually learn something after they have completed their project. I have been in groups with people that would revive my papers and suggest I put commas or certain punctuation marks where that don't belong. Its usually the perfectionist of the group that ends up being the person who isn't as smart as they think they are. However, input from group members is need when working in groups. Each member of the group just needs to know how to express their selves in a respectful way that wont offend anyone.
Chapter 14 question 2
Outline and discuss the guidelines for providing observer feedback to a group.
1.Goals and Objectives-Team members agree on goals and objectives. This is the most important part when it comes to a group being successful. Everyone has to know and agree to one goal.
2.Utilization of resources- Team members are aware of resources and use them accordingly.
3.Trust and conflict- Team members trust each other and deal with conflict when it arises.
4.Leadership- Everyone takes a turn being the leader of the group. When everyone is giving the opportunity to lead the group their is less conflict within the group.
5.Control and Procedures- There are certain procedures that guide the way the team functions.
6.Interpersonal communication- Team members communicate with each other.
7.Problem solving/ Decision making- Team members all agree on how to go about solving a problem and making decisions.
8.Experimentation/ Creativity- Teams members experiment on different ways to solve problems.
9.Evaluation-The group evaluates its functioning process.
If a group can stick to all of theses guidelines the will be successful.
1.Goals and Objectives-Team members agree on goals and objectives. This is the most important part when it comes to a group being successful. Everyone has to know and agree to one goal.
2.Utilization of resources- Team members are aware of resources and use them accordingly.
3.Trust and conflict- Team members trust each other and deal with conflict when it arises.
4.Leadership- Everyone takes a turn being the leader of the group. When everyone is giving the opportunity to lead the group their is less conflict within the group.
5.Control and Procedures- There are certain procedures that guide the way the team functions.
6.Interpersonal communication- Team members communicate with each other.
7.Problem solving/ Decision making- Team members all agree on how to go about solving a problem and making decisions.
8.Experimentation/ Creativity- Teams members experiment on different ways to solve problems.
9.Evaluation-The group evaluates its functioning process.
If a group can stick to all of theses guidelines the will be successful.
Friday, March 4, 2011
chapter14 question 1
Why use a consultant or an observer for a small group? (Remember, carefully think through your answer. Your final project is based on this very concept).
An observer or consultant can be beneficial to a small group. Usually when people are part of a group they might have problems that they don't notice or address. This happens because the group has no idea how they look or act or how other people might view their interaction with each other. Lack of communication within a group or just people being flaky are problems that people either don't notice or choose not to address. Its always that one person in a group that say they are going to do something and they never do it. So someone else in the group has to pick up the slack. An observer or consultant can address a problem of that short without worrying about any tension that would come if the problem was addressed by an actual member of the group. Usually at school when people are put into small groups the teacher takes the role of the consultant or observer.
An observer or consultant can be beneficial to a small group. Usually when people are part of a group they might have problems that they don't notice or address. This happens because the group has no idea how they look or act or how other people might view their interaction with each other. Lack of communication within a group or just people being flaky are problems that people either don't notice or choose not to address. Its always that one person in a group that say they are going to do something and they never do it. So someone else in the group has to pick up the slack. An observer or consultant can address a problem of that short without worrying about any tension that would come if the problem was addressed by an actual member of the group. Usually at school when people are put into small groups the teacher takes the role of the consultant or observer.
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